In mediumship, there are times when a Spirit will come forth and no one knows who they are. While we may make excuses or lay blame for why this happens, perhaps even dismissing it as a mistake, there are some reasons we need to realize that this may not be a mistake at all.

Although this post is similar to the one entitled, “Why Didn’t The Person I Wanted To Talk To Come Through?” This one is designed for developing mediums as opposed to sitters, and addresses the scenarios surrounding the presence of an unknown spirit.

First, it is possible that the spirit coming through is a relative or someone connected to the Sitter but the sitter just doesn’t know them. For example, distant relatives or family members who passed before the sitter was born. Sometimes it can be siblings or relatives that died as children and are now appearing in spirit. Granted, these scenarios should have some type of evidence to help the sitter make a connection, but this may not always be the case. It’s important not to cut the spirit short on the chance that the evidence and information may still be related to the sitter and may potentially be validated at a later time. Not to mention the message may matter more than their identity, so don’t cut them off.

Second, it is possible that the sitter is experiencing what we sometimes call ‘psychic amnesia.’ This may happen when the sitter is so focused on hearing from a particular loved one that the identity of the spirit communicator is eluding them at the present moment. Here again, we may want to give the sitter enough evidence and information to help them perhaps have some recall later on, so don’t cut it short and blame yourself if you are confident you’ve made a good connection.

Third, if you are in a developmental practice-group setting and a spirit makes a connection, then quite frankly, it doesn’t matter if someone can identify the spirit or not. Yes, it is nice when someone knows the spirit communicator. We all want to be sure we are on-track with our evidence, but sometimes what the spirit has to say may be far more valuable than their identity actually being for a particular person. If this happens, just let the message and the story matter. This is sometimes far more valuable than always identifying the spirit. Some of my greatest lessons have come from these drop-in communicators, or ‘pop-ins’ as I also like to call them. In fact, I still share some of their stories today. If the message is insightful, loving, and full of learning, then why does it matter that the spirit isn’t for someone present. Clearly their message still matters, and most likely the group or you needs to hear it!

Fourth, just because someone can’t identify the spirit at the moment doesn’t mean it won’t matter later or to someone else. For example, I was chatting with a spiritual friend last month when a spirit was knocking on my head. When I shared the spirit’s evidence, my friend had no idea who it was. I asked the spirit to help me out and he gave a clue that guided my friend to look in the right direction. Three days later she called me and found out that the spirit was for her daughter’s boyfriend. I like to say, “spirit knows, so let it flow!”

Fifth, service to the spirit is just as important as service to the living. If a spirit needs to come through, then no doubt there is a reason. Allow it to happen – for yourself and for them. Building this type of relationship and trust with spirit is a critical part of mediumship development, so don’t shut it down just because someone can’t claim the communicator.

Sixth, there is no “wrong” spirit. It is the spirit you were meant to have – whether others know them or not. A tough lesson to learn but still true.

Seventh, spirits need to practice too. We assume that all spirits pass-on and then can miraculously communicate. Maybe this is true and maybe not. If you are in a developmental setting and asking spirit to come through, then allow whoever shows up to be present. The spirit may need to be present for their growth and healing, not yours. After all, it is a spiritual development circle and you have invited spirit to show up, so allow spirit the chance to practice and grow and connect with the living.

Eighth, it could be a Spiritual Helper. Depending on where you are in your mediumship development, you may be so focused on getting information for a departed loved one that you are missing the fact that the spirit present could actually be a Spiritual Helper – a guide, teacher, or some other being there to help you or others. There is usually an energy difference between Spiritual Helpers and loved ones, but maybe you simply aren’t able to identify this at your current developmental stage. Stay focused with the connection for how it feels as well as what you are receiving.  

Ninth, you may not really have a connection with a spirit. Sadly this does happen, and in the early developmental stages it may happen more then we care for. The one thing we should be cognizant of is that the presence of spirit has an energetic signature and feel that is typically evident to a medium, but this feeling may take time to evolve and discern. When I first began my mediumship endeavors I would get verifiable evidence and information but I had no sense of feeling the presence of the spirit communicator. Some would say this means the information I was receiving was purely psychic. It might have been psychic, but it also still might have been mediumship. It may just be that an underdeveloped Psi-practitioner has yet to be able to discern the difference between these two processes. When we think we have a spirit connection but can’t yet feel the energy of spirit, then it is possible that we simply don’t have the connection we think we do. We might, but we also might not. We have to be willing to be wrong in order to learn and grow – not just to always be right.

I realize that all of these scenarios can be tough to accept because I too struggled with all of them. We tend to take the blame when someone can’t identify the spirit communicator, and of course, we should be sure we actually do have a good connection. However, we also shouldn’t be too quick to assume we’re wrong. There’s a fine line between the two that must evolve with practice, time, and discernment. Eventually we will learn to trust our connections, to feel spirit, and to embrace the connections – whether others can embrace them or not.

Cheers & Wellness,

Carol

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